Often when you suffer with anxiety, it is hard to focus on the positives in life. We can get into a negative train of thought, thinking of all that’s lacking, or ‘going wrong’ in life. It’s time to change direction with your thought patterns. Today, I want you to think about what you treasure the most in your life.
What are your top 5s?
Reflect on your life. Take time to sit down and have a pen and paper in front of you. What would you say are the top 5 things in your life? This could be physical or not. Do you have children? A partner? Maybe it’s a physical item you treasure, like a favourite book, or journal.
Write down the top 5 things in your life. And cherish each of these 5 things. Remember how lucky you are to have them. You may find it hard to begin with, you don’t have to sit and do this in one day. You may want to take a few days to mull it over. But when you have your 5, fold the paper in half and pop it in a safe place.
Focusing on the good each day
It is essential to try to train your brain into thinking positively rather than negatively. To do this you must practise brain- training. Check out my blog post here, on how you can focus on one thing each day to help your anxiety.
At the end of everyday, grab a pen and paper and write down 3 things that have been good at the end of everyday. When you have done this everyday for a month, you will soon start to retrain your brain into focusing on the positive rather than the negative. They could be big things, or small things. Initially you will find this difficult, but with time it will get easier and you will soon realise that the smaller things in life actually mean the most.
What else do you treasure?
It can be big or small. Here is what I treasure;
- My family, extended and immediate.
- That my dream came true (as corny as that sounds!)
- My ability to write
- The British seasons
- Special occasions, such as Christmas and Easter
- The incredible free education we receive in our childhood and teenage years
- The amazing NHS
- The ability to use escapism through TV, films, games and books
- A good, bent over, tears rolling laugh. I especially treasure my family’s sense of humour and how we always laugh together
- Weekend get togethers at my parents
- The taste of good food and drinks
- Our wedding album
- Videos and photos from my beautiful life and my memories with my loved ones
- My One Tree Hill, OC, Buffy and Walking Dead boxsets
Now you’ve seen my example, it’s time to reflect and write your own. Use the 2 typical scenarios to help you: If you were a castaway on an island, what 3 items would you take? If there was a fire, what would you rescue other than yourselves? These scenarios may be extreme, but they get you thinking about what your truly treasure. What things in life would you be utterly lost without?
Remind yourself of this list daily
Pop this list on your fridge, against your shower screen or next to your mirror. Everyday for a month look at this list to remind yourself of the treasures you have in your life. It will remind you of what you hold dear. Suddenly it becomes crystal clear that it really is the little things in life that mean the most. That the people around us are our treasures. We don’t have to have oodles of money, the latest gadgets or a flash car. We need love, support and encouragement.
We will treasure our memories, through photo albums and videos of our past. We hold onto the precious times where we felt content and happy.
We can treasure escaping through music and films. To be able to escape from our own lives and drown into a whole new world.
What you treasure will say a lot about you. Listen, take note. Then move forwards opening your life up to similar things. Make more memories with loved ones you won’t forget and capture them on a camera, print them out. Indulge in a TV series in the evening to escape if you are going through an anxious stage. Get creative with your treasures.
Life will become sunnier.